"Things Their Enablers Say"
This is where we admit what we said when we were out of our minds.
to submit a phrase to "Things Their Enablers Say".
" i KNOW where he is every single hour. and no, he didn't sneak out of the house last night, i was sleeping right here on the couch"
"It's easy for everyone else to say what to do! What if it was your child? You and everyone else has no idea!"
" But I LLLOOOOOVVVVE him!!!!"
"This time it will be different because he completed a two month rehab. I can feel him different already. He has the tools now."
"If he would only take his bipolar medication then he wouldnt be lke this anymore"
"He's going to kill himself, overdose, and someone is going to kill or hurt him if I leave him."
"He wants to get counseling, but he doesn't have
the money right now"
"He knows that if he does it again then it's
"I don't understand why the kids can't come to
visit as long as you're there with them. He's not going to hurt anyone"
"They can't come visit (the grandkids), even if he's not using??"
"There's nothing at MY house, he knows he can't bring it (crack) there"
"He mentioned again last night that he would like to seek some intense counseling"
"I think he wants something more intense than that" (after being told that there is FREE counseling/support/treatment available for those who want it)
"I am his wife and if something happens to him I will feel responsible. I am all he has."
"but he has so much potential"
“This is the LAST time I'll send you money.”
"I'm 100% sure he will never do crack again"
"Maybe I should bring him for counselling. I think he is depressed and that is why he uses."
"After this, I’m not lending you any more money."
“he’s only had three relapses”
“he’s a really nice guy”
“his ex is just over reacting”
“I moved him in ‘cause he had no where else to go”
“he’s taking steps to deal with it.”
"I love you ,come home."
"It is my doubt in him that keeps him using."
It is 2:00 a.m. "Mom, he just called and I have to pick him up again. He is in some bad part of town and is freaking out. Will you watch the baby until I get back?"
"Will you watch the baby? I need to drive to the rehab place to give him cigarettes?"
"This is the
very last time, I swear the last time.... don't
ask me again because I am not going to give you
anymore money - I swear." (as if there is ever a
"If I ride with him he won't be gone all night ."
"_____ can't come into work today, he has the flu."
"He can't help it, he's sick! You wouldn't say
that about somebody if they had Cancer, would
"Just promise you'll never do this again. Do you give your word? Say you give your word."
"OK, I'll give you one more chance."
"But WE'RE going to do it this time!"
"Don't worry.....I'll take care of it....Don't worry!"
"He's such a wonderful
person when he's not using."
"Is there any hope? He's going into rehab next week."
"He would never be violent with me."
"He would NEVER do that"
"But, I loooooove him (voice going up 8 octaves)."
"But, I REALLY BELIEVED him this time.!!!"
“ I can’t believe they screwed up shorted you on your paycheck AGAIN!”
"But you said you would be home in FIVE MINUTES and that was TWO HOURS ago...*sigh* ..ok see you in 5 minutes"
“I won’t fight with you anymore, please don’t go take a drive to “cool down”. Last time you were gone all night”
“Please just come home, your court time is 9:00am and you need to be sober! (It’s 3am usually when the call comes)
"What if he has died, it is my fault"
"HOW CAN YOU
SAY THOSE THINGS ABOUT YOU OWN SISTER?"
"IF IT WASN'T FOR ..NAME... SHE WOULDN'T HAVE THESE PROBLEMS."
"WE CAN'T LOSE HOPE IN HER. SHE'S MY FAMILY."
"SHE WOULD NEVER LY OR STEAL FROM US....SHE'S FAMILY."
"SHE JUST NEEDS ALITTLE HELP TO GET BACK ON HER FEET."
"Do you 'really' promise this time?"
"Can we just get away this weekend ... just you and me ... and no drugs?"
"I will never leave you."
"I will help you conquer this."
"I know you love me more than anything."
"Just don't leave, you can stay here and smoke in the den. I just need to know you are safe."
"I've looked in all the rooms ... there's nobody else here."
"I understand that you are only treating me like this is because you are so stressed from trying to quit."
"No, I didn't hear anything."
"I'll call and explain that you have the flu (flat tire, Dr. appointment, etc.) and can't make it."
"Awww .... that's so sweet of you to think of me and bring this rose."
"I'm sorry you don't feel well. Why don't you go lay down and I'll bring you something to eat."
"I know you would of never laid a hand on me if you weren't so stressed from trying to quit."
"I forgive you ... I forgive you ... I forgive you ... I forgive you ..."
"Yes I do trust you."
"I'm not cheating on you. I really did go to Dad's house."
"I wont bring up your drug use again."
"Yes I do remember our vows."
"You just relax ... I'll take care if it. "
"I'm sorry, I will try to be more understanding."
"I am so happy ... so we can leave in the morning for rehab?"
"Let's just forget it ever happened. Tomorrow is a new day."
"Yes I understand that it will be hard to quit and I understand that all addicts relapse's several times."
"I'll be OK ... let's put all our efforts into getting you well."
"OK, I will stay right here until you get back. How long do you think you will be?"
"Where’s my car?"
"Where’s my bankcard?"
"How are we going to pay the electric bill?"
"Did you sleep with her (him)?"
"I don’t believe you."
"But I'm afraid he'll die if I leave him."
"He needs my help to get better, he can't do it by himself."
"I need to be there for him so he doesn't give up."
"I'll ignore it just this one last time ..."
"If you do this again, I swear I'll leave you ..."
"You look like you need a good meal ..."
"I can't believe he would do this AGAIN!!!!!!!!"
"Ok, I'll drive you to get dope, but this is the LAST TIME."